Doggie dick and more

The Guy called me about 12p.m. Friday, which was surprising. I had actually been planning to call him to see if he would proof my paper since I didn't necessarily want to show my mother who is my primary editor when it comes to my papers. My mom picks up on grammar mistakes I don't. So he said Jeff was coming over at 3 and they were grabbing some salmon from our favorite quick eat, healthy food place. He asked if I wanted to come over, I said yes, and he told me to come anytime.

I get to his house at 1:30 and he is on the phone with work or something because he didn't go in. He told me he was finally successful in setting up a Mac Mini as a backup drive where he can store all of his music and play iTunes movies from. He was very excited, and I was too, I think it is neat all the stuff he is always trying. We watch some show on his media server stationed in the office on Apple TV in the living room. It was a show about the 60s and Vietnam with several musical solos where characters would sing Beatles songs. It was about a guy from Liverpool who comes to the US to find his father, then winds up with a group of hippies, and then in the end is deported back to Liverpool. During the movie we made lots of comments about the movie- we sang, we made comments about the wardrobe, and other things. It was kind of a long movie that dragged on. (Does anyone know what it was called btw?).

Jeff still hadn't shown up by about 4p.m. and tuvimos mucho hambre. The Guy and I went to pick up the food ourselves. We also stopped at the bank so he could deposit some checks. The Guy tells me how he gave Josh the ultimatum. He has told him for a week that his phone has to be ported from The Guy's account or it will be turned off at 8a.m. tomorrow.

We arrive back and Jeff comes a few minutes later as we are piling food on our plates. They were out of potatoes so instead we have couscous, pasta salad, and a delicious spinach salad. The pasta was not my favorite. The couscous were quite good. The chicken was good. I decided to do chicken instead of salmon, and hit the spot. It was my first time having that. Jeff brings his dog, a little pomeranian or something, and he eats standing up at the counter in the kitchen talking on the phone. We try some random drink supplement for joints that Jeff brought and make small talk while Jeff is in the midst of chatting on the phone.

During this time it was funny that The Guy's new husky was laying with his head down on the tile floor and Jeff's dog would come over and raise his hind leg (because he is a male dog) and let The Guy's dog lick his little pomeranian penis. It was hilarious. We confirmed that there were 3 gay dogs in the house, and yes, all the dogs are males. It was so comical to watch. Later, as The Guy was getting ready to leave, he made a comment about that, "don't do anything I wouldn't do, like lift my hind leg and let the husky lick at my dick."

The Guy took off about 5 to go to the gym while Jeff and I stayed. Jeff played WOW and I worked on my paper for my class. The Guy texted once to make sure the dogs were ok. Then he called twice. Once Josh sent a text asking why The Guy had "changed" and why he was so "different," which really shut The Guy down. He was then sick to his stomach, nearly in tears, and we just reminded him he is doing the right thing and Josh is getting a free ride off of The Guy. While he was gone I chatted with Max, a guy he hooked up with once, and then saw at a bar in my city, and thinks he is my type. He told Max to add me last weekend on facebook and so we chatted. Seems like a cool closeted guy who goes to college in my city.

Jeff took off about 8:30 and The Guy arrived back at 8:35. He told me how worried he was about leaving the dogs alone. He told me about what he texted Josh and how Josh was totally avoiding everything. Josh just texted saying Jeff was behind this. The Guy again just laid out how Josh is distant and there is no reason to continue their friendship.

The Guy and I had been talking about TVs because I finally have the money to buy one I want I plan to do so. I showed him a couple I had in mind. He suggested we go to Best Buy. The Guy found a couple he wanted. He found a $2000 LG for his bedroom to upgrade that one, and was close to, but found it for $1600 on Amazon. We talked to a guy in the home theater department and he showed me some TVs that were good for the price and I took a picture of their price tag so I know what I want. I will wait until probably around Christmas when the prices may go down even more. I also want to see the Black Friday ads. The Guy asked 3-4 times if I thought he should buy the TV and he had told me earlier in the evening my job was to say NO because he is trying to save more, although he is not doing a good job with it.

While at Best Buy Josh was texting that it was past 9p.m. and he didn't know where the AT&T store was, and it was closed, so The Guy texted him he has until the weekend is over and that's it. Hopefully that stays true.

The Guy and I went back to his place and talked about random little things. I told him Max had been messaging me and we talked about random things. The Guy asked if he was free, and the thing that went to my mind was he would invite him over, threesome, you get the idea. We also talked about Linda. I told him everything I just said in my previous post, and he was amused, and thought I was doing pretty good avoiding her. We talked about cleaning. He told me how he loves Jeff, but everytime he comes over Jeff leaves a trail. In The Guy's sink Jeff left a plate half full of food, which I would never do, The Guy pointed out. He said that he thinks how our moms teach us to clean shows a lot about how we do things and pick up after ourselves. Though The Guy may not always do it, he sees a ton of dirt in his place that others may not. He said I probably do too because my mom is a home ec teacher and she has probably drilled me over and over about how to clean. I admitted she had. Any holiday used to be cleaning day. The Guy showed me his dirty base boards, the corners and crevices in his walls, the tops of surfaces in the kitchen, the blinds, and all of the areas with tons of dirt. We agreed we both know how to clean. We talked about how The Guy is using the pet hotel again, and how he trusts me over all of his friends to pet sit, but 3 days with new pets is difficult, plus I am still forgiving him, so he hasn't earned any dog sitting points with me. I joked that it was fine if he had asked because we are speaking again, but also for me it is close to work. It is 12 minutes from work as opposed to 30-45.

The Guy wanted to get some sleep about 10, so I wished him a good trip, and took off.

L-L-L-LINDA

Linda is still being motherly to me. She has told my mom I'm like a son to her, she wants to be like a mom to me, and therefore does everything for me.

She said everyone at school (except for the teachers) think that I am her son. The kids see me with her constantly, some of them do call me her last name. All of this happened because my mom was transferred and some of the 7th graders don't remember my mom.

Everytime I sub at work she either gives me money to go buy lunch, or if we have a common prep, we rush down there for a quick lunch.

Everytime we go out, she insists on treating me, even when I'm with my mom and her.

On days she knows I'm going to be working, like Thursday morning, she called me up on my way to school to see that I was getting there, I was safe, and the fog wasn't bad. I only know because I listened to the voicemail message.

On another morning she called me at 6:57 to see where I was because she knew she wasn't going to be at school to do her duty at 7:10 and wanted to know if I could cover for her.

She texts me 3-4 times a week to see that everything is going ok and what the family is up to. She always asks if I received her texts. I usually don't respond. She can call my mom if she wants to talk and needs a friend.

She calls me constantly to tell me about something going on at the school just like she did my mom last year. She always wants to make sure I get home safe and insists I call her.

She insists I text her when I sub for her and let her know how the day went. I'm not texting my sub note. I don't do text like she does. She insists on perfectly punctuated texts, and can only receive 140 character texts. Sorry.

Always insists that I come into her room to say hello in the morning, or goodbye at the end of the day. Saying goodbye can take an hour. I don't want to be at school that late, so I try to make the goodbyes as short and sweet as can be, and have plans so that I can't stay around late.

Whenever I walk past her classroom she always insists on saying hi to me, and her students to do the same.

If I'm subbing in a classroom a few doors down from her, or even all the way down the hallway she stands outside at the beginning of each period and waves to me. If I happen to not see it, I hear about it later. That's a bit much.

I don't respond to every text of course and every phone call. I really limit myself with her. She is just too motherly. Her conversations drag on for hours, and she is not my best friend.

I do have to say that I do enjoy working at the school with her. She is one of the few bright spots ;-\ I guess I just have to take the good with the bad as cliche as that sounds.

Moms...

I get what I want

A quick update on the ordeal with my teacher. I got a call from the school last night and they said they were disturbed about several things. I can only imagine what the things were. I have a pretty good idea. Anyways, they asked me flat out "what do I want?"

First they are making my professor follow off of another teacher's Powerpoint slides because of the content on hers.

I asked that I have someone in the room on Monday night when I'm doing my presentation to make sure that things go smoothly and I'm not outed. Secondly I want to have my paper read by someone else if I feel the grade from the professor is questionable.

I am calling the school this morning to let them know.

Pretty awesome they were so responsive. I want to say thanks to JC for letting me run my ideas by him as to what I want.

Yeah, you don't mess with me. :)

I'm a fighter

I have been chatting with The Guy the past couple days. Told him yesterday about my professor. Told him about her last night. He was as floored as I was as to what happened- she did some things I didn't even mention in my blog that will probably have her banished from the university. This morning I had 3 emails fired off to administration at my school about the incident last night. Just received a quick response the incident is being looked in to. Anyways, The Guy made an excellent point, and it is so true; something that I know about myself:

People may try to take advantage of me or push something over on me because I appear to be the quiet and shy one, but they do not know me. When they finally find out about me they see that I am a fighter and I will do everything within my power to make sure something is right, I become loud, and I fight back, they realize their mistake.

So true...

And if I were a DJ on 1043 MYFM this song would be playing in the background throughout all of this... lol

My teacher's agenda

In response to my last post after taking time to think about what the teacher was asking (me to come out) and what I was writing about I had serious issues. Why? It is wrong to make someone come out when they aren't comfortable. A teacher is supposed to foster a positive learning environment where everyone feels comfortable. It is not essential to my presentation- contrary to what my teacher says I can be convincing even if I am not gay. It is about building a good case and evidence- an important skill that comes from good research. I can use personal experiences and things I have seen inside the classroom- that is firsthand experience. I can get around it without having to come out. The teacher told me 20-30% of my paper/presentation needs to be firsthand evidence, and I can come up with that without coming out.

Last but not least, perhaps the most important reason. My teacher has an agenda- after viewing her website after receiving a couple rather rude emails from her I realized she is pushing an agenda. She is promoting her hypnosis business. She had fliers tonight that stated that. She believes in hypnosis for gays- she must be one who doesn't believe that it is something you are born with or biological factors. So that's something... she basically said coming out is not a big deal...

Anyways, she talked to me tonight and I told her that I will do it this way, I plan to mention this, I have the research, my argument will make sense, and if I'm graded solely on that there will be no problems. She seemed to somewhat agree.

I do plan to alert the administration there may be some issues with the grading. I also plan to write out in an e-mail to this professor that if I am outed during my presentation she can expect that I will be alerting administration.

You do not piss me off.

Oh, and my mom asked how my paper was coming along. I told her "fine if you don't ask about what the teacher said, and her agenda." She is puzzled, but I think she is suspecting. I also said "it's fine, but if we have an issue, administration will be finding out," and haven't elaborated. I hate doing that.

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On another note I wanted to say I enjoyed grabbing lunch and catching up again with James over at Just Me. I enjoyed your company, buddy. Great guy, check him out.

Come out to the class!

I'm taking a stupid psychology class for my credential. We have to do a stupid 10 page/15 minute presentation on an issue. I happened to get adolescent sexuality. I can talk about anything in that spectrum. I can't talk about media since someone else is doing that. I can talk about everything being more sexualized today- although that tiptoes on the media topic. I can talk about kids engaging in sexual behavior at a younger/older age/subgroups and when children are having sex. Lots of interesting stats. I can talk about why kids choose to have sex, etc.

There is a section in the book on "minority sexual behavior," or gay and lesbian attitudes toward sexuality. Well, this is a topic I studied extensively in a bio class in college a few years back and I still have all the handouts the professor had and the textbook. I actually did a presentation on the factors that are said to possibly influence sexuality.

Here are the only requirements I need in my paper-
- Hypothesis
- Statement of problem with issues surrounding the problem (biological, psychological, and social factors)
- Research to back up your findings and opinions
- Personal experiences
- Opinions
- Social policy recommendations to address the issue with research to back it up

Ok- I was thinking how can I incorporate this with the research I have from that presentation I did in undergrad/textbook?

RESEARCH ON SEXUALITY Well, there's a lot that goes in to possibly determining sexuality and all the debates about how sexuality comes about (that addresses the biological, psychological, and social factors). There was a twin study in Australia that showed in fraternal twins both weren't gay, but that wasn't the case with identical twins. There are the biological things- x-chromosome having a special marker, index finger sizes, hypothalamus sizes in gay men. I can bring in Kinsey and how sexuality is on a scale and varied (so I'm drawing in again stuff the book doesn't talk about). I can talk about environmental factors- no proof a childhood of abuse makes someone gay, having gay parents doesn't make you gay, etc. I can talk about those questions people ask like "what makes you straight?" I dunno...

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE I can talk about rates of homosexuality- between 2 and 10% of the population and use my high school as an example. I know for a fact thanks to facebook nearly 10% of my graduating class in high school was gay. Did most of these people announce it in high school? No.

My social policy recommendation: More funding is needed to teach kids that being bisexual, gay, lesbian, whatever is acceptable. LGBT isn't enough because of stigmatizations and the kids who really need it (maybe me?) would never have gone. Often laughed at, so if we make the teaching of sexuality and explain how it is possibly not a choice to be gay it would help? .......................... of course it isn't easy because some areas are so conservative, parents wanting their kids to opt out of this teaching, etc. etc.................. so I'm not sure what to say here.......... maybe use personal experience about how maybe I wouldn't have been in my late teens like 19 or 20 before I finally discovered it was ok?

So my hypothesis I'm thinking is we need more money to education children about sexuality. I can talk about how there is so much intolerance and it comes from an early age and use examples like Larry King, the 15 year old boy in Ventura County who was shot for being gay. I can talk about how homosexuality is mocked and made fun of in so many aspects. My content area is a little weak, so that's where I'm still really looking for ideas.


And of course I had to email my professor with my ideas and here's what she told me...

COME OUT TO THE CLASS!
Focus a little. what about starting with "What is's like being gay during adolescence, from a personal perspective, and point to the research that either backs up your feelings and thoughts or contradicts them. Its always best to show both sides to an argument.
Ask yourself these questions: What would have been helpful to you during that time? Is it just education for students, or do we need to educate parents through PTA meetings.
How about out religious leaders?
Will you include lesbians, cross gender, trans-sexuals etc.


... I didn't say I was gay... it was implied obviously...

So I'm writing a paper in which I come up to 20 kids in my class? Guess mom isn't seeing that paper to proof it. I am not sure I want to do that. I know that since I did get this topic if I were able to use the gay/straight debate I have much of the groundwork laid, but finding the content/using personal examples about how sexuality/tolerance toward being gay can be ok is the difficult part.

So I need research and I guess I need... I dunno

Edit: Ok... thought about it... what do I want to prove and advocate for is my big question? GSA? Eh... not so much... I haven't found much support about their benefit other than in 2 magazines. Tolerance? Yes. But um... she wants some policy issue that I have to be passionate about. So money for this to be taught as a part of a comprehensive sex program? I guess I need journal articles to support that? No sé.

I'm open to ideas..... feel free to comment...

My new favorite song

I'm gaga over Lady Gaga's new song. I want to go see her in LA in December. Gonzo wants to go conmigo y espero que ella puede.


I do have to say I'm not sure what is going on in the video. Confusingness.