Thanks for all of the input on thoughts/ideas/feelings about Marshall!!! I am pretty much convinced he is partnered and I don't need to be in that mix. It is not what I'm looking for. I am looking for more of a relationship. He is simply not worth the effort of finding whether or not he is partnered. He has already lied/skirted around the issue, so I'm not going to worry. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I just thought I'd post some of the letters he is emailing me everyday. I haven't been online chatting with him, so I guess this is his substitute. Almost sounds like a relationship, no? haha
Happy Saturday - hope you're staying sexy and enjoying the sun!
I worked half of the day today (I usually don't take a lot of time off), and then TOOK A NAP for the first time in 100 years. The puppies liked it and I definitely needed it.
Made some pasta with homemade sauce given to me by one of the guys at work who's known for ALL of his cooking masteries. He weighs about 48 tons so it's clear he know how to cook! LOL! Thankfully his sauce was completely healthy and NO fat, so I felt good eating it.
Found the Fitness Center at the complex today - and did an hour of Eliptical - that was after taking Bill (one of the puppies) with me on his FIRST EVER walk. By the time we finished round 2, he was SUCH A STUD! I can't wait to go with him in the morning. Snookie (named after Jersey Shores) did NOT like the experience - and since I have little patience and expect everyone to get on board immediately, for now, it looks like I'm going to perfect Bill's enjoyment of the leash. He's such a Mama's Boy anyway.
I realized NOW why I like the area so much... Years ago, I used to go to Mexico several times a year (Cabo, Acapulco, Mazatlan, Cancun, etc..) and stayed at 5* resorts (time-shares), would hang out mostly at the pool, blah blah blah... When I was in the fitness center today I was like, "THIS IS EXACTLY LIKE THAT except everyone I run into speaks English!" The suites I'd get all were 1-2 bedroom with full kitchen, etc... so this is just like that. And, that was when I was most at peace. So it makes sense now that I like it here so much.
DUH!
How's your day? Hope you're doing awesome!
Looking forward to chatting/seeing you soon!
M
Everyday I'm getting short emails from him about his day, how he's doing, what he did, which seems very relationship like. Regardless, I am going to be letting him know shortly I am not interested in pursuing anything with him.
I texted The Guy this morning before I knew what was going on. I figured he was on facebook and probably not up to much. That was the case. I got a call from him as he was coming home from taking the pups to doggie daycare. We chatted as much as we could- meaning how long we could stay connected. We did get a few words in about saying we should hang out, so I took that cue, and headed over to his place.
When I arrived he was looking at some videos of America's Got Talent and great singers the article was showcasing. We talked about how good some of them were. We talked about iPhones and speculations surrounding the great unveiling Monday. The Guy made a great point about the prototype that was discovered in a bar and publicized greatly over the past few weeks. He said that the iPhone that was unveiled looked like something early 90s Mac, and not polished and elegant like the new iPad. Why would Apple take a step back? There needs to be a WOW factor, and that prototype does not have the WOW factor. We looked at the Sprint HRC phone and compared it to the iPhone. It is bigger, the new phone is rumored to have a smaller screen, but better resolution. Lots of fun. We were trying to measure the size of the HRC vs. the iPhone, and went on the search for a ruler and tore up the place looking for one only to discover The Guy does not own a ruler. We spent a good 20 minutes doing that. I love it, when he is persistent and wants to know something like that he'll obsess over it.
We ate some food he cooked the other night- there was shredded cheese, tortillas, frijoles refritos (refried beans), and guacamole. Good grub. We started snacking on healthier tortilla chips and guacamole, then he put a tortilla out with some cheese and had a quesadilla going. He warmed up the beans, then he pointed out I could do a bean and cheese burrito, and that sounded pretty dang good, and it was.
We go in the office and The Guy tells me about how his WOW accounts were all hacked, and how he emailed about it, but has yet to hear a response. Along that same line The Guy got tickets to Blizzcon (the big Blizzard product showcase- Blizzard is the company that has World of Warcraft, and several other games). He got 4 tickets for Robert (the new b/f), Jeff, his friend in Missouri Dan, and himself. He is paying to fly Dan out. He played and did some PVPing on the new toon he bought because his others were hacked. This new toon is good for PVP play. He invited me to play, but realized his accounts were frozen and he didn't have an account for me.
We hung until 5p.m. when he had to go pick up the dogs and get ready for Robert. I would have gone with him to pick up the dogs had I not had to mosey on over to my next outing.
I mentioned how I wanted to go see Lady Antebellum and Tim McGraw, and my cousins would go. My lesbian cousin B and her girlfriend had other plans, although they wanted to go. My oldest cousin, the one I most often refer to as cousin wanted to go. Her friend Laura wanted to go too. The tickets were lowered to a family 4 pack lawn seating for $75.00. It was just the 3 of us, but still, $75 for 3 people is not bad when 1 ticket was $41. My opinion also was we would be there to hear the music, half of going to a concert is hearing the music/seeing the artist, the other half is who you go with, and I was with a fun group, so I was going to have a great time either way.
Lady A
It was at the San Manuel Ampitheater in the middle of nowhere in Devore. Lots of cars trying to get there, though. We knew the back way in and saved 30 minutes easily waiting in traffic. I <3 having relatives in the area, so I know my way around there pretty well. I was apprehensive about would my cousin and her friend Laura like it? Cousin is a closet country fan who likes the Rascal Flatts stuff, and Laura liked Lady A's song "Need You Now." She is the one I went to Brandin' Iron with last week, along with lesbian cousin who didn't go.
View from our spot on the grass
Lady A
Sooooooooo many hot shirtless guys tailgating and lots of booby grabbing and flashing from girls. Fun stuff. Laura was so appalled, she's a good little Catholic girl. It was hilarious as we were walking, she screamed a couple times over some of the stuff she saw.
We had lawn seats as I said, which were of course at the back, but we had such a great time, the 3 of us. We sat on a blanket, had our strawberry/lime margaritas in hand, and good music. It was interesting during the intermission between acts they played oldies like "Rocket Man," The Police, and other non country acts.
This girl was lifted in the air waaaaaay too many times- you might understand why
There were more acts than we thought playing- first was Love and Theft, which only played 15 minutes or so, which was perfect. Then Lady A took the stage, and was amazing. Next came Tim McGraw, and then the Warren Brothers came out to sing with Tim McGraw.
Lady A's best songs were "Lookin For a Good Time," "Need You Now," "Hello World," and "I Run to You." All of these songs came near the end of Lady A's performance. My cousin first said she recognized "American Honey," and actually stood up to watch them perform that. Laura and I had already been standing.
When Tim McGraw first came out he sang "Real Good Man." My cousin said she had a total deja vu moment about the whole motorcycle entrance. She said he was soooo sexy. The 3 of us stood up and danced the entire time. My cousin made the comment during "Where the Green Grass Grows," "I miss country music." Her boyfriend is punk rock, alternative, Metal Mullisha guy 100%. She seemed to be having more fun as the time went on.
Tim McGraw's stage The crowd was so worked up, it was truly crazy. Tim sang most of his hits, except "Grown Men Don't Cry," "The Cowboy in Me," "Don't Take the Girl," "When the Stars Go Blue," and "My Next 30 Years." He did sing 2-3 like "Still," and "Southern Voice" off of his new album.
Some of the other songs that were my favorite from the night included:
Watching him sing "If You're Reading This" was amazing, and Laura melted. She took a video of it, as well as a pic. Did you know the Warren brothers helped write this?
On the way home we kept talking about how sexy Tim was- I didn't really comment- I just said he looks great for his age, hard to believe his 40+.
Eddy texted me at about 3p.m. telling me his house was open or something to that effect, and I knew what it meant. I texted back asking if it was another wild sex party. He said just drinking with the coworkers. I was down. We all met about 9:30. Different group than usual, plus some usual suspects like Viv (I hadn't seen her since my birthday maybe), Marci, and Gonzo. Hannah joined us (new coworker) and 2 of her friends.
They were all setting up for beer pong when I arrived. Gonzo had never played beer pong, and was anxious to learn. She had it down within the first few shots, she also refused to drink beer, and would only do kamikaze shots since they don't taste alcoholic. She was in every round, and did a total of 6 shots. She was a pro and kept making it in the other team's cups. Viv came later, and Viv was pretty good too. She came with her cousin Benji, who has become a good friend of Eddy's.
So lots of playing Rockband, beer pong, random side convos going on. Viv, Gonzo, and I made our way to the bedroom- not for anything sexual, but to watch youtube videos and dance to them. I am embarrassed/impressed to say I had several of the songs on my iPod. Yeah, I could pass for being Mexican. My days of listening to Latino 963 paid off.
I like this song...
This song is ridiculous when you find out/if you know what Mayonesa translates to in English. I learned to use my hips and chest in this. Notice the Beyonce parody in this video.
Bonus points if anyone knows what "dougie" refers to. Nasty meaning. We weren't a fan of this song.
Viv had to leave about 12:30, Mari at 12. Viv is going to TJ tomorrow and has to get up at 6. After Mari left Viv, Gonzo and I danced, and I was praised for dancing to anything. Random people flowed through on their way to the bathroom and stopped to look. We talked about how sexy some of the guys were in the videos and how to dance to the songs... haha.
After Viv left Gonzo played some Rockband with Eddy. Lots of random talk about random stuff. Gonzo kept saying how she isn't like this, how "we are good people," and how no one will find out about her.
It wasn't my idea to get really crazy drunk like Eddy had planned for people like Gonzo. I drove Gonzo home in her car, and Eddy followed. I didn't like doing that, but we were insistent she wasn't going to drive, and well, I'd feel bad if she didn't get home safely.
I spent some time talking to Marshall online last night. The conversation went around how amazing I was, how we have so much in common, etc. etc. All of this about how compatible we were made it an opportunity to ask me what he wanted and what he was looking for. His response was "preferably exclusive friends with benefits." He asked what I wanted, and I said I was looking more for a relationship, and he said he was not opposed. He wants to hang out, cook, eat, talk, go to the beach, shopping, etc. When we go out he wouldn't mind the whole daddy thing, and paying for me. He asked more about what I like to do for fun, and he said he'd love to go to a concert or two with me.
The topic of Arizona, where he lived prior came up several times. He mentioned he is waiting for his house to close escrow and how he misses all of his dogs out there. I asked for more information. He said his ROOMMATE is still there. I asked if his roommate was his partner, and he didn't reply. He went on to tell me about all of his dogs, and how much he loves them. He said that he will eventually move the dogs out here.
So I feel like I know more... yet...... i still need that partnered question answered.
Edit in response to comments: I'm pretty sure roommate = boyfriend. I'm also not sure I'm ok with the whole daddy/pay for me thing. In one hand it is like paying me for favors. I am not into that. I am independent and pay for myself.
My grindr photo was "cropped" by grindr because I guess I showed too much skin. I had the picture up for months, but reset my phone, added the pic again, and now it is scandalous.
So I met a guy a few days ago on the internet whom we will call Marshall. Such a hot guy!!! He was 43, 5'10'', 190lbs, 6'' cut, brown hair parted down the middle with blond highlights. So my type. He just moved here from Arizona and has only been in California 2 weeks. He has spent the past 8 years though, here on business regularly.
We chatted on the internet for several hours, became facebook friends, then decided to meet up. We did dinner Saturday night at Buca Di Beppo in Irvine. I know why I was attracted to him- he's so random, his mind goes at 100 miles a minute, he is very much a type-A personality, he reminds me very much of The Guy as far as being so talkative and random. He sells Mary K cosmetics, does sales for a trucking company, and a range of other things. The conversation was nonstop.
We met on Sunday night too, this time at his apartment. We made out in the doorway for literally 15 minutes. We made our way to his bedroom where we stripped, and started kissing, cuddling, making out, and then we jacked off on each other. Lots of talking in bed about how hot of a time we were having.
We chatted on the phone Monday and Tuesday. Everytime he was telling me how awesome, how sexy, how perfect, how much of an Adonis I am, you get the pic. Total nonstop praise. While it does boost my ego, it left me skeptical. What kind of guy is he, and why is he saying that? It left me sketpical how he can praise me so much. He was telling me how he has a hard time admitting, but I'm one of the hottest guys he has met/talked/seen in 10 years. I was skeptical as to why/how he can praise me so much. On one hand it is flattering, but it is a bit much coming from a guy nearly 20 years older. Sure a "you're hot is fine," but the perpetual praise was extreme.
So tonight he was telling me how he rarely has sex. I asked why. He said long story short is he is NEW to California. He said he IS/WAS partnered in Arizona for 8 years. His boyfriend in Arizona is 15 years younger for him. They last had sex on like August 15, 2006. He loves the boyfriend and they get along great because of their love of dogs, but he doesn't like having sex with the boyfriend. His boyfriend is into funky stuff like tying him up and duct tape. Much more praise and back to talking about how sexy I am.
Right now I'm not sure what to think. He's head over heels for me. I was distant from the beginning and careful to not get swept up in his words. Now I'm wanting to ease back. Am I wrong? I don't know how to tell him no when I am just as guilty of telling him how I'm into him, yet didn't know he IS/WAS partnered. Ugh. ----------------------------------------------------------------------- As much as I hate to sit and compose a letter I think this may be the best thing... opinions?
Dear Marshall,
While I have enjoyed getting to know you over the past couple of days, I cannot in my heart, in good conscience continue seeing you as a friend with benefits/ a possible relationship (since you are seeing someone)?
Mike
OR................
Dear Marshall,
I have enjoyed getting to know you over the past couple days, but feel I cannot continue seeing you for sexual favors.
Mike
I don't know.... I know he's going to pry, ask questions, wonder what is wrong with him, why I can't, be butt hurt, potentially dramatic... ugh. Is honesty the best policy?
Here's my list of goals for this summer: 1. Finish my 2 summer classes 2. Paint my bedroom/take down the awful wallpaper. 3. Organize my closet 4. Take a weekend trip... or two... JetBlue Cheeps, anyone? 5. Watch lots of movies- I watched Tropic Thunder last night- I should have passed. 6. Hang out with coworkers a couple times and cousins since we're back in constant communication 7. Pester AT&T about our internet issues. Thanks to reader hpnutty for their advice. I plan to suggest what you told me. 8. Go to 2-3 concerts 9. Take the Spanish test I still need to for my credential, and study for it. I should do ok. 10. Still want to visit Disney World. 11. Hang out with my best friend when he is here a couple times 12. Disney, Universal, and Knotts Berry Farm a few times 13. Weho again... maybe as soon as tonight!
Nothing real lofty, but things I need to work on.
Oh, and I just found out my idiot advisor will not let me take the class online and pay the same tuition as an on site class. Online classes are $1,000 more per class. There was a scheduling conflict with both of my summer classes- both were offered Thursday night. I went in 2 weeks back and petitioned to take 1 online and get the on site rate because this advisor encouraged me to do that because of this issue. I get a call from his secretary at 10:40 this morning telling me that the class I need is now offered on Monday night. I told her I'd have to think about it, but I already had plans, and I do. I wanted to keep my schedule open for JetBlue Cheeps, as well as I have it planned to go to Disneyland with my best friend on a Monday, then drive down to his condo in Carlsbad and stay through Wednesday. I got an email from the advisor at 12:20, 20 minutes ago, telling me that because I elected to choose the online class over taking it on campus I will not receive a discounted rate. Excuse me?! You were the ass who said the class was only offered Thursday nights, and I planned my schedule around that.
After 3-4 emails my advisor relented and is allowing me to take the class online, which is what I wanted to do.
