David in a zoot suit

I took these pictures a while back, but chatting with a fellow reader, Bruce, reminded me I had one of these photos on my phone.

Let's call this David Ono in a zoot suit.



I do have to give David props for wearing bright colors and colors many men may shy away from like pinks, greens, and purples.

I just have to say I'm not a fan of this one... unfortunately my iPhone didn't catch how eyecatchingly black this suit was, and with the pink.

Text etiquette/ interest

Hey guys!

I am keeping another guy under wraps I met just because it is new, I really like him, and I don't want to screw anything up. We met on an internet site a while back, adam4adam of all places. Don't ask. I'll explain later. We became myspace friends a few days later, then we chat back and forth when he is on AIM. He has been messaging me about once a week on myspace. I always reply back. This past Thursday after he sent me a myspace message saying he was coming to my city that night I wrote him back and gave him my cell phone number as a hint. We chatted via text Thursday night. Friday night he texted me asking what I was up to when I was out with friends and wrote back. Saturday we finally hung out and met in person. We texted back and forth that night. Sunday afternoon he texted me while I was out and about the time I went to bed.

So now that I have vaguely talked about our conversations my question is what should I say to him?

I know it is more than my turn to text him, so I want to do that.

We're just friends right now, nothing more. I haven't been to his house or done anything beyond given him a hug, so don't get your hopes up.

So when should I text him? What should I say? Should I just do a simple "what's up?" Should I randomly write him about a "random thought" that I had about something like I tend to do with friends? Should I text him after I make a delicious meal or recipe because we both really enjoy cooking and kind of brag?

Thanks for your help!

Clubbing with Carl again

I went clubbing with Carl last night. He had been asking, begging, and pleading to hang out with me. I’m one of his few friends and I had been neglecting him mainly because I’m busy, but I didn’t want to hear his bitchfest about how he hates life, the world hates him, and stuff like that. I didn’t want to go over to his house and watch a movie and hear that. I figured the best thing we could do was go to a club. Sure I’d have to deal with him for about 20 minutes each way in the car, but it was a lot easier in my mind. We ended up talking and bitching to each other about things going on, which was fine, and I knew we would, but just sitting at home is so boring. Plus I wanted to dance.

So we went to the club we’ve been going to. The special last night was Long Island Iced Teas for $4.00. I bought the first round and we bought the second. We got our drinks and made our way outside the club to the patio and he told me about managing hotels, which is what he did after he got out of the Army and before he went to live with his brother and go to school. We sat down at a table and chairs on the patio and about 5 minutes later someone started throwing glass over the 15 foot fence or so and some landed next to the group of girls sitting next to us, then another came over the fence and shattered right around us. The club owners and security went running out the back gate, and we ran with them to see what was going on. They didn’t see anybody, but that was kind of scary.

We watched the drag show. There weren’t a lot of people there and it was easy for us to get on the VIP list to see the show. The drag queens were much better than the ones we had seen lately. There was a Selena and Madonna. Both were good, but not really my thing.

We danced after the show until 1a.m., then I said we’re leaving, which I warned him I was going to leave early because I was tired. I’m trying to get caught up on sleep.

We actually want to make it at least a monthly thing where we go out clubbing together. Friday nights are definitely the best night to go to this club. We were surprised that Saturday was so dead. I had a fun time though, don't get me wrong about the entire evening. I just wasn't really wanting to go out so much, but once I was out I was happy.

Frat Boy

I met Frat Boy last Wednesday night. We actually met on adam4adam, which is not one of my favorite sites. I just go on there to see who there is. He had listed only 2-3 people knew he was gay, he was looking for friends, 3rd year at my college, stuff like that. Cool. We chatted about 3 hours on AIM and then decided to hang out.

We met up at the Starbucks near campus. He is a frat boy, first year at my college, just transferred. He is about 5’9’’, 170lbs, Jewish, and does not have the frat boy look you imagine. We chat and he said he only really knows 1 person in his frat, could never come out to any guys in his frat, was very shy, random stuff like that. We chatted and he told me he is from Israel and stuff like that. We ended up going back to his car and making out. No clue why, or how that happened. He asked if I was ready to head out, we parked next to each other, then next thing I know we’re in his car kissing and making out. He told me how he has never really done that with a guy. Coulda fooled me.

Anyways, he seems like a cool guy, so we met up Friday for lunch at Farmer Boys. Learned more about him. He’s a business major, grades aren’t so great, doesn’t go to class, but does the reading. He is deathly afraid of his parents finding out. He is from West LA and really hasn’t been around the area. He has never been to Disneyland, Knotts, etc. That came up because he asked where Orange County was. He also asked where Palm Springs was, Corona, Temecula, Sun City, San Bernardino, and random stuff like that. We chatted for probably an hour or so, then we left, he was planning on going to class, albeit late.

So we’ve texted and IM’d on and off this weekend, he wants to hang out again. He wants to move quicker than I want to, and I'm not that interested into him. I am open to being friends though since he does seem like a cool guy and would be fun to show him around.

Foot Fetish

I met Foot Fetish, or Ryan, back on December 30, also on Connexion. He is a 24 year old kid who goes to my school. He is 6'6'', 170lbs, size 16 foot, brown hair, and brown eyes. He is a computer science major. We met on connexion, texted a few days, then met up in person. It was during Christmas Break and he had been sick. We chatted a lot on the internet and saw after we friended each other on facebook that we had a friend in common, Dennis. Having Dennis as a friend was an instant draw for Ryan. He wanted to know me more and know more about Dennis. We have a friend in common, yet I'd never seen Ryan around campus, I had never seen Ryan on connexion until I did a much more expansive search because he lives about 20 miles away.

We met up one night randomly when I told him I had to go to Best Buy. He suggested I drive over to the one by his house and he'd meet me there. He was just getting over being sick. We walked through Best Buy talking about HDTVs and Digital TV Converter Boxes. After, we went to Starbucks inside Barnes and Noble and chatted for over 2 hours about school and music.

We hung out once more before we went back to school after Christmas Break. We went to Romanos Macaroni Grill and chatted a lot about school and friends. I gave him the scoop on Dennis.

We went shopping at the mall together a couple times.

We hung out the day we got back from Christmas Break at school. I stayed late to hang out with him in the LGBT Center, his hangout, where he introduced me to his friends, then we went into a conference room and he ordered his textbooks for school.

We hung out the following Friday and a few Fridays after. We went to Cocos and other restaurants. We chatted one night in Cocos for probably 5 hours on things like science and random current events. We were chatting and texting each other at the table. He texted me things like he knew I was in the really white, conservative area of town as he drove to where I live. He texted me about how we were getting stares probably for being 2 guys looking like we're on a date, and things like that. After, we went driving, which he was sort of against because it meant wasting fuel, polluting the air. He talked about his activism with the LGBT community. I showed him around the area I live including my house and high school. He suggested we go back to Cocos, then go back to his place. Back at his place we kissed, hugged, and made out. We then fell asleep in each other's arms.

We hung out a couple more times and grabbed food- we went to the Mexican food place just down the street from my house. After this, we ended up again going back to his place, kissed, hugged, and made out. No, we never had sex. His views on sex are interesting. He has only had anal sex once and it hurt to be fucked. He is fine making out, grinding on a person, then getting off, by grinding on each other.

Everytime we hang out he asks me to wear a different pair of shoes, or when we chat online he asks me what shoes I wore that day. He has a foot/shoe fetish. He is turned on by the fact I have size 13 and 14 shoes. He would be turned on if my foot kept growing more and more.

We continue to chat quite a bit online. When we do we chat it is about random stuff- work, school, shoes, technology, and random stuff. I don't think it'll go beyond more than that, but he's probably just going to be a good friend. We do agree that we both want to be friends before we start a relationship.

It would be hard to have a relationship with him as I'm discovering. I find when I tell him something, Dennis finds out about it a few hours later.

So basically I think we're pretty much just going to be friends, but I waited to post anything about him just because I wanted to take things slow, see what panned out, and see if he was the one. Who knows...

Update: There are convos we have like tonight that make me wonder about him. I know he had 1 serious boyfriend and that relationship lasted a year and a half. This was the relationship he had sex in. I think part of the reason he may be avoiding me/we don't hang out as much outside of the school setting/things didn't get as serious is he isn't ready for it/wants a relationship... here's a part of our chat this afternoon. We talked about school and things, then the conversation turned...

Me: let's make plans for the vans store
Me: lol
Foot Fetish: im worried tho
Me: lol y?
Foot Fetish: cuz ever since you told me about the 15s ive been 1000x more horny about you
Foot Fetish: if i see you trying them on it will probably be worse
Me: haha
Me: LOL
Me: HEHEHE
Me: horniness isn't a bad thing!
Foot Fetish: lol

So is that saying he likes me?

Busy!!!

Long, crazy week!

Monday- 1st day of my last quarter in college. Spent the day getting in the swing of things and catching up on sleep.

Tuesday- hung out with The Guy, then finished my Spanish homework/reading for the rest of the week.

Wednesday- School, then met up with a frat guy from my college where we talked about sexuality and stuff. He's deathly afraid of coming out. We met on connexion. Plan to get lunch together today.

Thursday- Subbed FINALLY! Went to dinner with my mom and sister after allergy shots. Had a lot of fun making jokes about random stuff. Worked on my professional blog getting it set up and my best writing samples published. Taught my mom to edit photos on a Mac.

Caught up on the gossip with my coworkers. Mr. P quit. WOW. Mr. P is one of my favorite teachers. I ended up crying for a few minutes after I got off the phone with Gonzo and Viv because I was just so shocked and hurt. I know it has nothing to do with me, but he doesn't deserve what he was put through. Administration wasn't supporting the teachers and he wasn't getting the respect he deserved. Mr. P was my freshmen English teacher and I worked with him.

Friday- Internet is acting up and it isn't my computer. It is the network. I fear I'll be using this weekend to work out kinks and bugs. Ick. I dread that. Lunch with frat kid today. Dinner with my coworkers tonight.

This weekend- Lots of homework: Spanish readings and a presentation in my women's studies class, discussion board postings for that class.

I will be back soon! Lots of stories to share about Frat Boy and a guy I haven't mentioned named Foot Fetish.

Some old things new

The Guy and I hung out yesterday. He's been really busy seeing other guys. Seriously, he's dating 5-6 guys right now. His therapist has suggested he weed the number down. Anyways, I texted him Monday night because I hadn't hung out with him in a while and I wanted to talk to him. Specifically I wanted to talk to him about where to go to school next year. So Monday night I texted him telling him I was free all day Tuesday, or after 12 on Wednesday. He texted me back saying Tuesday morning. I text him with a simple "hi" Tuesday morning because I didn't know if he was just doing this out of my request and I didn't want it to be forced. He texted me almost immediately and asked if I was coming over. I didn't reply because I was getting my eyebrows waxed... say what you want, but I used to have eyebrows about an inch longer and 1/2'' thick. I was feeling short tempered yesterday and didn't want to play games. Anyways, I called him when I got out. He claimed I hung up on him, but I was driving through an intersection with bad reception. We finally talk and I said I was on my way over. He said we could work at network stuff.

The Guy has a new Macbook Air, Mac screen, the Drobo media server, and the HP Media Server. He wanted to put the RAID card back in his Macbook, use that as a backup, as well as the Drobo. Then he wanted to set up the Air with Windows so he could use the HP Media Server since it is only Windows compatible. We spent most of the afternoon in the office just doing that. I helped him by holding the computer. He made little sounds, comments, and I did the same.

We did take a break for him to make a shake about 12:30. His new trainer has him eating a lot more natural foods. One of them is a vegetable supplement that tastes like grass. He is drowning it in chocolate and peanut butter to make it not taste so bad. He asked if I was going to have some and he served it up. He is drinking it and smiling making faces, and moving his hips like he enjoyed the torture. I stand there, drink my first sip, smile, and then burst out laughing and making googly eyes with him. Once I stopped laughing I drank a few more sips and he did the same, but kept smiling. I tell him it isn't that bad because it wasn't. It just left a grass aftertaste.

We go back in the office and do a few more things. He brings his Macbook Pro in and finishes up his blog. His therapist is recommending that he blog everytime he looks on the internet at porn or a hookup site and for how long he was on it. He had spent 2 hours on manhunt, craigslist, and some other site prior to my arrival. He talked about how his time with me was much more fulfilling because doing things with friends, and doing things like computer work fulfills him.

The Guy has bought a lot of porn and begins organizing that in the office. He shows me he bought some new poppers and has them in the desk drawer at the computer. He opens them, tells me to smell them, and then he asked me what I thought. Then he has his hand on my dick and is pulling down his pants. I suck him off for a few minutes and he is jacking me off. I play with his chest and continue to suck him. I get back into the motions after a few minutes. Then he tells me to take my pants of completely while he gets lube and a condom. He tells me to lean over onto the chair and he lubes me up and fucks me. It hurt a lot at first- it has been months- probably like the beginning of September. He fucks me REALLY hard. Then he has me lean my head into the chair and continues fucking. He has me then sit on the chair and put his legs up over him while he fucks me. He asks me if I missed his dick and things like that. I did. He jacks me off and I shoot all over the chair. He doesn't get off quite yet. He said he'd gotten off twice that morning jacking himself off. I clean up the chair, then start the shower. I start cleaning the lube off and I had so much on me that needed to come off. I didn't know The Guy was going to want to get off, so i didn't think we might do it in the shower. He comes in and he says it was his turn to get off. Instead I began sucking and licking his balls and he jacked off. He shot all over my hair and back. I had to wash my hair afterward. Never had cum there before... hehe. So basically The Guy and I talked and we can still play around. A lot of the reason we stopped was because I had become so hard to deal with. To be honest guys like Greg and Mike made me crazy constantly asking me if I was clean and making me doubt. It really got to me. We agreed we'll just play it safe, we'll be honest with each other, and also not let emotions get into it.

After the shower Jeff comes over. He was having a bad day and lost his wallet. He gets food for us at the salmon place we like.

During this time I didn't get to have the 1-on-1 full attention conversation I wanted but I explained it was either get my teaching credential at my current school, or the private school over near The Guy's. He told me to go for the private school even though I may have loans. He knows I'll be happier. He told me he should go back and do the same with me. He talked about how he has to finish up his papers at his school to finish his Masters in English. He already has a Masters in Technology and Education. He doesn't have his teaching credential however. He said a lot of his classes won't transfer to this private school, but he had taken classes there. He has 2 masters degrees, and is coming upon a 3rd, yet he doesn't have a teaching credential, so he could never teach in California. He said he got a lot out of the classes at this college, but they were easy. He talked about how he doesn't want to do the slave labor (aka student teaching), but I pointed out how it is much better at the private school (15 as opposed to 30 weeks). So while I didn't get the 1-on-1 undivided attention, fully talk it out, but I got my answer. His thing was I don't like the school I'm at, I don't have any loans, so suck it up and do it. Private college where I will probably take out $8-12k in loans is the answer.

We eat when Jeff arrives. It was REALLY good. The salad was great, the potatoes, and the salmon. I ate quite a bit. Jeff plays on The Guy's laptop after we eat, The Guy finishes installing windows. I sit and watch "Friends" and "Family Guy" with Jeff. It was actually a "Friends" episode I'd seen the night before where Chandler and Monica came back from their honeymoon and had met another couple. There was also that cheesy sex line in the movie about "I was backpacking in western Europe..." I kept my mouth shut about what happened.

The Guy had to leave to go to his workout, but asked if Jeff and I would sit around and wait for UPS to come. We said sure. Jeff left at 6:50 and I left at 6:55. Jeff and I didn't really talk. I did tell him about my date the other day with Maxon. He laughed and found it amusing. I began feeling really bad though, while we were sitting there. I went to the bathroom 3-4 times. My stomach was cramping and felt tight. I didn't know if I could make it home since it hurt to sit up. I texted The Guy asking how he felt because I figured maybe it was food poisoning or something and I thought the fish we both had was the culprit. We ate the same things, so I figured he was feeling the same thing. I get a text back from him about 2 hours later and he wasn't feeling bad. He didn't feel great, but nothing unusual. I called him once and he didn't pick up because he was still working out. I had called him to ask if I could either go back to his place or if he'd follow me back to my house (at least halfway up the highway I live off of) so that I could be sure to get home safely. I didn't know that I could. He called at 8:50 and he wanted to know what was going on. I told him, and he said he didn't feel great, but it was probably that he was just working out. He hoped I felt better. We talked about eating the same stuff and how the salmon was the likely culprit, but who knows. I felt a little better as the night went on, but my stomach hurt most of the night. I do feel better this morning.