Tuesday, January 26, 2010

He's done

I got a text and call from date last week. He asked me if I were free tonight for a date and he asked if we were even talking. I resisted responding at first to give me some time to be civil. I then replied with a generic hi. He asked how I was, and I told him I was alright. He asked how my bird walks were. I told him fine. There was 15 minutes of silence, then I said "listen, I was really bothered by many of the events of last week, and cannot continue. I wish you nothing but the best." He wrote back and asked what I was bothered by. I didn't reply before being bombarded by there were some major red flags about me, but he thought he should look optimistically and give me the benefit of the doubt. I told him I was sorry he felt that way, but I really did not feel I could continue because of my gut feelings. He told me that I should have offered to pay my own on the date (which I did), he told me I shouldn't prey on old guys, and he's sorry we can't be together. Trying to guilt me, but also manipulate me into staying, and feeling guilty. No thanks. He sent another message asking why we don't just fuck. I told him that I wished him nothing but the best, and ended it. I blocked, then removed him from my buddy list, and my phone. I don't know if I handled it well- I suppose I could have told him what bothered me, but I was not in the mood to argue, and something told me it would be a no win situation.


Cash said...

Sooo . . Did you guys fuck?? jk

Yeah sounds like a creeper.

Anonymous said...

Wow that's creepy. Trying to play it off on to you like you're the one that's weird and it's all your fault. And then begging for sex at the end? How pathetic.

You did the right thing, and you did it very diplomatically. I can't say I would have been half as nice in the same situation.

You did good, man. And you stood up for yourself. And you did the right thing. *hugs*

Aaron said...

Hey Mike, I have been following your blog from Google Reader but haven't been commenting because I am shit. :P But doooode, I sure am glad you ditched this guy! This is way beyond creepy, seriously. It's not over-the-top, its creeeeeppyyyyy! But anyway, move on. :) NEXT! I am sure you'll find someone proper soon.

Anonymous said...

Well, I have to say nothing about how he responded surprises me.

A volley of it's your fault, then insults, then a final plea to be f*ck buddies. Are you freaking kidding me?

You took the high road...Always a good thing in my opinion. Your a nice guy! I'm off to pick up by Buffalo Wild Wings now, hope the waiter is hot lol. Cheers.

My Time said...

Hey is no big surprise that he responded as he did.
It’s the best thing you could have done to remove him from your phone… there is no point in arguing with him, he is stupid that re reacted like that. I would just not reply and forget about him, he’s a waste of time and you deserve better.

Anonymous said...

Great move Mike. He isn't worth your time nor attention. Find a guy that doesn't set off warning flags.. And to make it sound like there were problems with you but he was doing you a favour -- that's the lowest of the low. Don't look back, there's lots better out there.

How's things with the younger guy you went on a date with?