These past few days I've been wondering if I'm ready to take it to the next level with Chris. Boyfriends?
I know what I need to about him- his family life, education, enjoy his company, can have meaningful convos with him. We've known each other for a little over a month.
Some of my concerns:
- He's not ready (still dealing with divorce, newly single, still adjusting to his new outness)
- He's not looking for this (new outness)
- Losing his friendship (he's an amusing guy and I think we have a lot of similar views)
So how to approach it? I don't want to screw it up our friendship. I don't know when to ask.
So do I say something, like say at dinner, or if we're sitting there on the couch like this:
1 - Chris, I really like you, I think you're a great guy, and I'm interested in getting to know you better. Would you be my boyfriend? - Cheesy?
2 - I don't want you to take this the wrong way, and I don't want to lose your friendship if you say no, but I really like you and would like to be your boyfriend? - Too bold? Too soon?
3 - I feel we're both at similar points in our lives as far as outness and we come from similar backgrounds. I have a lot of fun around you. I know this is probably asking a lot, but would you be my boyfriend?
I feel like I'm being bold and doing something I normally wouldn't do (be the one to ask), but I feel tempted.
... but then again why ruin whatever is there?